Why doesn't she just leave?

Learn the basics about domestic violence

So, you want to learn about domestic violence?

If you can’t accept the statistics of one woman a week being murdered by a current or former partner;

If you know in your guts that violence against women is totally and utterly preventable;

If you know you have the potential to make a difference; and

You’re thirsty to start learning,

Then you’ve definitely come to the right place!

Are you tired of not being able to figure out why it is that victims either don’t leave, or keep returning to their abusers?

 Do any of these sound like you?

Maybe you’re a current student or recent graduate who wants to learn about domestic violence so you can get your first job in the domestic violence sector and start making a meaningful difference in people’s lives.

Or maybe you already have a career in a different sector, but you know some of your clients are victims of domestic violence and besides knowing that “DV is bad”, you don’t really understand the ins and outs of it all, and you want to be sure you aren’t unintentionally victim blaming or causing your clients further trauma.

Maybe you have a friend who is experiencing domestic violence and you just can’t understand why she chooses to stay with someone who continues to abuse her, despite clearly suffering from it.

Or maybe you already work in the domestic violence sector, but you need a refresher, or you’ve never actually had the opportunity to receive training in domestic violence before, and you sometimes have trouble with really being able to understand why she keeps returning to her abuser.

What if:

>> You were able to identify perpetrator tactics a mile away?

>> You understood on a visceral level why victims don’t leave?

>> You were able to effortlessly identify the ways we unintentionally collude with perpetrators every day, so that you could make sure you aren’t doing that?

Imagine what a badass domestic violence disrupter you could be!

Here's a secret: You can!

Introducing...


Why doesn't she just leave?

Your blueprint for demystifying domestic violence so you can stop unknowingly colluding with perpetrators, start consciously empathising with survivors, and make a difference in people’s lives

When we ask "why doesn't she just leave?" it actually reveals a lot about ourselves:

>> that we’ve been socialised to hold victims (primarily women) responsible for the actions of perpetrators (predominantly men);

>> that we've had the privilege of living free from fear;

>> that we're making assumptions about survivors and perpetrators; and

>> that we don't really understand domestic violence.

The Bad news: Unfortunately, there are a lot of people working with survivors that ask this question.

The Good news: You don’t need to be one of them.

Are you ready to:

>> Stop unconsciously colluding with perpetrators and perpetuating domestic violence without even realising you are doing it?

>> Nip the risk of causing secondary trauma to your clients, in the bud?

>> Wrap your head around the nuances of coercive control so you can better empathise with victims and help hold perpetrators accountable?

>> Start recognising the strength and agency of victims so you can work together better?

It's time to become a domestic violence disrupter!

Understand why victims don’t just leave so you can uncover your unconscious victim blaming attitudes and behaviours (we all have them), stop colluding with perpetrators (we all do it), and start making a difference (what we all want)!

A Domestic violence disrupter is: someone who works to examine, challenge and change the attitudes, behaviours and systems that support and sustain domestic violence.

Heidi Guldbaek, Towards Freedom

What you get:

  • Instant and life-time access to this 8-lesson training

    As long as this course exists, you will be able to access it in the learning portal. Plus you can start right away!

  • Learning flexibility

    You are in complete control of your learning journey. Whether it takes you a month because you only watch the videos on the train, or you smash it out in under 2 hours, you can choose when you work through this training (and from which device) and how much time you can give to it per session.

  • Learning supplements

    I’m giving you worksheets and cheatsheets to make sure you are supported on your learning journey.

Why demystifying domestic violence should be your top priority:

A lot of people end up doing a crash course on domestic violence (if they get any training at all), that is more focussed on the practical application of interventions strategies, but really doesn’t get into the nuances of what domestic violence actually is.

This is detrimental because if you don’t intimately understand the nuts and bolts, then your intervention strategies aren’t going to be properly informed and could cause more harm or trauma to the client.

This course is informed by the voices of victims and victim advocates and backed by research. I created this short course because I have worked with so many survivors (and advocates) who have shared with me the ways in which family, friends and professionals (people they turned to for help)- have caused them further trauma (and often exposure to further harm) because even if they meant well (which most people do), the bottom line was they actually didn’t really understand domestic violence, so they were acting on assumptions, rather than empathy and informed strategies.

Don't let that be you!

Let's take a look at what you'll learn in each of the 8 lessons:

  • Define and differentiate

    Get clarity on the difference between domestic violence, family violence, intimate partner violence and violence against women, so you can stop banging your head against the wall and see how they all fit together.

  • Gender and violence

    Explore how violence is used and experienced differently by men and women so that you can better understand why men’s violence against women is a social problem, while women’s violence against men is not.

  • Abuse: Types and tactics

    Understand what abuse looks like so you can identify perpetrator patterns and strategies.

  • The depth of coercive control

    Deepen your understanding of the dynamics of coercive control to better understand why victims don’t leave.

  • His violence, your assumptions

    Unpack your own biases so that you aren’t inadvertently making dangerous assumptions.

  • Community complicity

    Learn to identify victim-blaming and violence-supportive attitudes so that you can consciously choose how to respond to community complicity.

  • Recognising resistance

    Understand victim resistance strategies so that you can minimise your assumptions and maximise your empathy for survivors and accountability for perpetrators.

  • Applied analysis

    Apply your new-found skills to analyse domestic violence cases.

Domestic violence concerns you. You WANT to make a difference, but you still haven’t quite wrapped your head around why victims don’t leave (or why they keep returning) when they are being abused.

This course is for you, if:

You crave clarity on all the “moving parts” of domestic violence

You want to be able to identify victim-blaming, so you can kick it in the butt!

You want to learn from a social justice perspective

This course isn't for you, if:

You already know the basics of domestic violence and you’re looking for more advanced strategies like how to respond to and disrupt said violence (we don’t really cover that here, but watch this space- we’re working on that too)

You’re not willing to reflect on your own attitudes and views

Meet your instructor

I’ve been in your shoes. I remember being really keen and excited to learn more about domestic violence and make a difference, but I just didn’t know where to start. There definitely weren’t any courses available that addressed domestic violence from a social justice perspective, so that I could grasp the breadth and depth of the issue to better inform my practice.

Fast forward 10 years, 2 degrees, and having the immense privilege to work with victims and victim advocates to create social change on local, State, National and International levels; and I am officially a domestic violence disrupter.

Let me help you learn the stuff it took me years to fully figure out so that you can get a jump-start at creating social change.

Frequently Asked Questions

When can I get started? +

Once your purchase goes through, you will be redirected to a signup page where you can set your username and password in order to access our eCourse portal. Once you sign up you will be logged in and can start right away.

How is it delivered? +

This course is delivered through our eCourse portal via 8 videos and accompanying worksheets and resources.

How long will it take me to complete? +

How long it takes to do this course will be different for everyone. You could binge watch and power through activities in about 2 hours if you fancy, or you could do one lesson a week, or one lesson a day. Depends on your urgency and your schedule.

Is this course accredited? +

We have not had this course accredited by any professional bodies or educational institutions in order to keep the cost accessible. If you wish to obtain continuing professional development (CPD) points from your professional body, most will allow you to make an application to receive points for particular educational activities such as online courses. If you are a TAFE student, you may be able to get recognition of prior learning for a particular unit, if you can demonstrate you have acquired particular knowledge, skills or experience in relation to that unit.